How to Radiate Beauty & Re-Fill Your Peace
Beautiful things are all around us if we open our eyes to see them! Nature is gorgeous. Our grandma is stunning. That piece in the art gallery is completely captivating.
And those beautiful things make us feel a certain way. Beauty feels calm, not stressed out. Full, not empty. Slow, not rushed. Inviting, not off-putting.
And you can be that way too!
Today we’re talking about the next thing that holds us back from being truly beautiful (and how to overcome it.)
If we want to radiate beauty to the world around us, we need to get rid of anything that drains our peace.
When’s the last time you felt stunning when you were absolutely drained and exhausted? What about when you were so stressed out that your heart was racing?
There are so many things in life that can drain us of our peace and rob us of our glow, but we don’t have to just go along with them! Here are a few simple ways to get your glow back:
Heal a Hurting Relationship
Often when we feel drained, it’s because there’s a relationship in our lives that’s not at peace. Maybe it’s an ongoing fight with a sibling, a hurt we’ve never mentioned to our spouse, or the feeling that we should apologize to a friend. Maybe you don’t like how the last conversation you had ended.
Make it right! Call them up. Write an email. Invite them over to talk. If your life was all of a sudden about to end, is there anyone you’d reach out to? Do it. The peace you feel, knowing you did all the good you could in that relationship will take a weight off of your shoulders. And that peace will allow you to glow again.
Let Go of Anger
It’s scientifically proven that anger isn’t good for your health. It makes sense then that it’s not good for looking or feeling beautiful either.
Once you pinpoint the source of your anger, there are lots of ways to resolve it.
Make it right! Call them up. Write an email. Invite them over to talk.
You may need to circle back to point #1 and reach out to someone. You may need to allow yourself to express it and get it out of your system creatively - like by writing a song or painting a picture.
You may need to turn on heavy metal music and punch your pillow until you can’t anymore.
No matter which route you choose, make forgiveness part of the process. Even if the object of your anger doesn’t “deserve it,” decide that you’ll no longer let that situation have a hold on you and that you’ve leveled the score in your head and heart.
Decide to Not Be Bothered by “It”
When’s the last time you saw someone who was really annoyed and thought, “Wow! She’s GORGEOUS!”? … Probably never.
When it’s clear that we’re irritated, inconvenienced or annoyed, our radiance dims. And while it’s impossible to never be annoyed by anyone or any situation, we can decide to just let certain things go.
I once heard this marriage advice from an older lady - she said, “The day you get married, pick 5 things. Those 5 things are things about your spouse that you’ll NEVER let bother you. They’ll be like 5 freebies. This can help save a marriage.”
So imagine deciding that you simply will not be annoyed about the toilet seat being left up - and instead you just put it down!
You just removed the power from a simple act that could have been a source of annoyance several times a day for the rest of your life! It’s the perfect way to protect your happiness!
Dream Again After Disappointment
Sometimes we’re not radiating our true beauty because we’re disappointed by how a life event has turned out.
Maybe that opportunity didn’t come together. Or the relationship ended. Or you weren’t able to accomplish the goal you set and all the doors seem to be slamming in your face.
Disappointment stings because when we hope for something, we start to build our future, in our minds, around that thing happening. And when it doesn’t, we’ve not only lost the thing we’ve hoped for … we’ve also lost a vision for our future.
So get by yourself with a journal and begin to dream again. Write down new things you’re looking forward to.
Allow yourself to re-imagine your future. Grab some magazines and cut out images that inspire you. Make a vision board. Fill your mind and heart with the truth that even when Plan A doesn’t happen, life can still hold beautiful possibilities.
Define Success on Our Own Terms
The last way to get your glow back is to release yourself from other people’s expectations. Is everyone in your family a lawyer, but the idea makes you cringe?
Know that at the end of your life, you’ll want to be proud of the path you chose.
So ignore how everyone around you defines success, and figure out what it means for you - in your career, your finances, your relationships, your contribution to the world, your heart and your health. And then live those things!
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